This work introduces the notion of a hesitant bipolar-valued intuitionistic fuzzy graph (HBVIFG), which reflects four different characterizations: membership with positive/negative aspects and non-membership with positive/negative aspects, incorporating multi-dimensional alternatives in all of its information. HBVIFG generalizes both HBVFG and BVHFG due to its diversified nature in observing four perspectives along with multiple attributes in a piece of information. Numerous studies, examples, and graphical representations emphasize the concept’s distinctiveness and importance. The following graph theory terms are defined: strong directed HBVIFG, full directed HBVIFG, directed spanning HBVIFSG, directed HBVIFSG, and partial directed hesitant bipolar-valued intuitionistic fuzzy subgraph (HBVIFSG). Examples of operations utilizing two HBVIFGs are Cartesian, direct, lexicographical, and strong products. A scenario is used to generate the mapping of relations, which includes homomorphism, isomorphism, weak isomorphism, and co-weak isomorphism. We describe a directed HBVIFG application that employs an algorithm to determine the most dominant person and self-persistent person in a social system and a comparative study is also provided. The proposed method provides a more detailed framework for assessing the most dominant and self-persistent individual in a social network across multi-level attributes along with positive and negative side membership and non-membership grades in each element of a network.