This study investigates the spatiotemporal evolution and key obstacle factors of urban flood resilience in the Shenyang Metropolitan Area, aiming to inform regional flood resilience planning and management. A comprehensive assessment indicator system was established, integrating natural, economic, social, and infrastructure dimensions to capture the multifaceted nature of flood resilience. The long short-term memory (LSTM) network with an attention mechanism, combined with the obstacle degree model, was employed to analyze resilience trends and diagnose limiting factors from 2001 to 2023. The findings reveal a sustained increase in the regional flood resilience index, rising from 0.255 in 2001 to 0.574 in 2023. Spatially, the resilience pattern evolved from a monocentric core diffusion to a dual-core leadership and multi-city collaborative structure, driven by basin-wide management and differentiated development between mountainous and plain areas. Disparities in resilience levels across cities narrowed over time. At the criterion level, infrastructure was the primary obstacle before 2010, while social factors became increasingly significant thereafter. At the indicator level, the main limiting factors varied among cities and shifted over time, reflecting local development dynamics. These results provide a theoretical basis and practical guidance for enhancing urban flood resilience in the Shenyang Metropolitan Area and offer insights applicable to other rapidly urbanizing regions.