Hopper scales are critical dynamic metering equipment in industrial production, yet their metrological performance is often compromised by wear on weighing units over long-term service. This study proposes a wear state assessment method based on the evolution of vibration features. Focusing on the rocker-column weighing unit, we analyzed the mechanism by which geometric changes in the spherical indenter—caused by fretting wear—alter the system’s constraint state. A global-to-local coupled Discrete Element Method and Finite Element Method (DEM–FEM) model was constructed to account for material-structure interactions, alongside a dynamic simulation model considering wear evolution. The simulation accuracy was validated through a dedicated experimental platform. The results indicate that as spherical wear intensifies, the low-frequency swaying of the indenter is suppressed, causing the system’s vibration mode to transition from a flexible, swaying-dominated state to a high-frequency, rigid-impact-dominated state. In the frequency domain, this manifests as energy migration, characterized by attenuation of the low-frequency main peak and an elevation of the high-frequency broadband noise floor. Crucially, as a key innovation for wear diagnosis, this study reveals the directional sensitivity of statistical indicators. While the Root Mean Square (RMS) exhibits a non-monotonic V-shaped trend, the Kurtosis and Margin factors of the tangential vibration demonstrate superior monotonic sensitivity. Under severe wear conditions, these two indicators increase by 14 and 11 times, respectively. These findings provide highly effective diagnostic criteria and hold significant engineering application value for the predictive maintenance of industrial dynamic weighing systems.