This paper focuses on the sealing failure problem of double-lip seal rings for high-speed ball bearings used in unmanned aerial vehicles. By using ANSYS 2023R1 software, a thermal–stress–wear coupled finite element model was established. Taking the contact pressure and volume loss due to wear as indicators to evaluate sealing performance, this study analyzed the influence of lip seal structural parameters on sealing performance, performed response surface optimization of the seal structure parameters and conducted a comparative test on lip seals before and after optimization. The research results show that the contact pressure at the main lip of the lip seal was the greatest, which was 0.79 MPa, and the volume loss due to wear lip seal was 7.94 × 10⁻⁷ mm³. Optimal sealing performance is achieved when the seal lip inclination angle is 41.68°, the middle width of the lip seal is 0.153 mm, the main lip height is 0.179 mm, the spring center distance is 0.37 mm and the radial interference is 0.0034 mm. After optimization, the grease leakage rate of the sealing ring decreased by 48% compared to before optimization.